16 August 2015

You're More Than Your Label


For as long as I can remember, I've been called "the short one". That's my label: short. I've never really minded, I mean, it's said with affection and (surprisingly) I've never really been bullied for my size, but sometimes when I hear someone describe me as "the short one", I want to tell them that there's more to me than my general small-ness. Yeah, I'm only 5 foot 3 but there are other things people notice about me. Like, I have this pair of scabby walking boots that I've worn every single day without fail for well over a year now. I like to think that they're a part of who I am now. And I have a weird hybrid accent despite the fact that I've lived in the same Scottish town for 18 years. People notice that. I sometimes get called "the kinda english-y one" if the short label wasn't effective enough. I dress kinda differently. You could use that as my label if you want. I've been called flamboyant a number of times. I love that. Use that one. My point is, there's more to me than my lack of height. 

Labels are the worst. People like to label everything and everyone so they can sort stuff into neat little boxes and categories. People label themselves so it's easier for them to tell people who and what they are. Life can get very disorganised sometimes so it can feel comforting to be able to give yourself a nice little label but some labels get old very fast. You're so much more than your label. I was talking about this with a friend the other day and he said that "I think it all comes down to that fundamentally human desire to feel a part of something". I couldn't agree more. You might disagree. Maybe you have a label for yourself and you like that label. Maybe you find comfort in your label. Maybe you finally feel like you can be yourself because of you label. If that's the case, that's brilliant. A label can be a badge of honour. I just think it's vital that you know that you are more than your label because you are. You are so freaking complex and that's wonderful.

Catriona
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  1. This has really made me think about judgements and we all kind of judge each other on specific aspects hat sometimes stand out.
    I've always been branded as "the Quiet One" and it's absolutely true that I'm virtually silent around strangers and don't talk masses within a friendship group, but I wish people would realise that there's more to me than that.

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    1. I can really empathise with that. I was known as the quiet one for years but I've really come out of my shell the past year or 2 so I lost that label. Being quiet's not a bad thing at all but I can completely relate with what you're saying; there's more to you than that. Xx

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  2. I'm the short AND quiet one. Also, for a time during middle school, I was "the one who hated boys". (Though I didn't hate them exactly, I just didn't want to discuss them romantically. And still don't, actually) What I'm trying to say is, I get you. I've taken the Myers-Briggs personality test, and while a lot of people love it and go "omg this is exactly me; it's scary!", I don't like fitting myself in a box of just four little letters. I feel like I'm more than that; that I'm changing every year, every day, every minute and I don't want to be held down by four little personality traits.

    So yeah. Just want to say that I get ya.

    (P.S. if you think you're short, you should see my not-even-middle-aged mother, who isn't even close to five feet. She's 4'10" I believe...? So yes, you're not short at all compared to her. :P)

    (P.P.S I'm short too--5'1"--but I just blame it on having tall friends, who make me look even shorter than I really am. That may be your problem, too :P)

    O | Life as a Young Lady

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    1. I took the Myers-Briggs personality test a while back and I agreed with the results to some extent but some of it was way off and I agree with you, people are constantly changing.
      My mum's under 5 feet too actually! I'm taller than my mum and my 21 year-old sister but as soon as you put me in with my friend group, I'm the short one. :'D x

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  3. I couldn't agree more! I'm a twin, and people seem to love to label twins… "the quiet one", "the smart one", "the difficult one" etc. I think they find it easier to pin us down to one word, instead of trying to get to know the two of us properly.

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    1. I can only imagine how frustrating that must be. There's more to you than one word!

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  4. I definitely agree, great thoughts! x

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  5. Beautiful post Catriona! Funnily enough I have a similar experience (I'm about 5 ft 2) and I used to feel really self conscious about it but I know now how silly I was, we are all human beings and that makes us so much more than the small details people choose to use to define us <3

    Safah - OH, HOW I WANDER.

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    1. Thank you, Safah! ♥
      I couldn't agree more :) xo

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